"You'll understand when you're a mom"
I heard this countless times from my mom when I was growing up. Mostly when we were in some sort of disagreement about cleaning my room or how late I could stay out on the weekends.
"No" I often thought "I don't think I will ever understand."
Fast forward years later to today. I am a mom now and I do see things differently.
I still don't understand decisions that were made, and will probably do certain things differently, but what I do understand is what that statement truly means.
It doesn't mean "When you're a parent you'll understand why making your teenager clean their room is important"
or
"When you're a parent you'll understand why your curfew was earlier than all of your friends"
What it really means is this:
When you're a mom you will understand a depth of love like no other.
When you're a mom you will understand what it feels like to have another person's life in your hands.
When you're a mom you will understand the magnitude of being entrusted with the care and education of a precious soul.
When you're a mom you will understand what it feels like to be responsible for another little person's future.
When you're a mom you will understand the intense, immovable desire to teach your children to be strong, compassionate, smart, independent, spiritual adults.
When you're a mom you will understand the longing to do all you can to make your children happy.
When you're a mom you will understand the difficulty of letting your children make mistakes in order to let them learn and grow.
When you're a mom you will understand the willingness to neglect your own needs on your childrens behalf.
When you're a mom you will understand that every decision you make in your life will have an impact on those tender spirits who have been put in your care.
When you're a mom you will do anything and everything that you feel will better your children in some way - even if they think you're the meanest mom ever for doing it.
When you're a mom you will understand how hard it is to say "no" because you mostly want with all your heart to say "yes" to anything that will make them happy, but you know that you can't.
When you're a mom you will understand that no.matter.what. you will fail. You will fail in some way to teach them some vital lesson of life.
When you're a mom you will understand that you will make mistakes every day.
but most of all when you're a mom you will understand that the tears, the sleepless nights, the fear of failing, the pain and sadness that you face
is
SO
worth
it.
♥
1 witty remarks:
Also, I realize that some of the things I hated that adults did they just did because they were tired aor at their wits end. I do things I never thought I would do that I am sort of ashamed of but did out of desperation. Also, I do things that I swore I would never do that I'm not really ashamed of, but had to do because the latter was too much. i.e. letting my kids go places looking like red neck white trash because I was too tired to dress them up fancy!
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